“Dum-Dum-de-Dum” A Most Happy Occassion


April 27, 2013 — HILLSBORO BEACH, FL – The Wedding of Matt Lawskowski to Pamela Borden.

A Most Happy Occasion … you remember yours, right? Even if the marriage ended abruptly or occasionally careens into a train wreck, somehow the wedding day remains untarnished … as it should be … with an indelible feeling that is hard to explain …. but oh, what a feeling.

Today, I’m reporting on that feeling at the Wedding of Pamela Borden to GRHS Class of ’73 Matt Lawskowski … at a most sumptuous setting in Hillsboro, Florida – April 27th, 2013.

"Yes ... its in the kiss"

“Yes … its in the kiss”

Why were John and I invited?

Well, through the magic of Facebook, I reconnected with Matt a few years back. We went to the 1973 GRHS Graduation Ball.  I always had a cozy feeling about Matt, and it was nice to find he is still that cozy, funny, laid-back dude. Two years ago, John and I visited him in Boca Raton. He took us out on his boat with his cohort friend Larry, and we caught up on life stories. Then he lamented about finding someone to love  (divorced with two grown kids). It soon became apparent (ie: I grilled him) that he and his friend Larry troll for the young chickies.  WHAAA??? Come on, man, young chickies are looking for money and babies (to secure more money).  So we …”encouraged” ….  Matt to seek love by getting involved in things he loves to do: Opera, Nature, Howling at the Moon Parties in the Everglades … which is exactly where he met the lovely Pamela Borden.  The very next year, he brought her to our Cedar Key home where we witnessed their love blossoming  (ok, they were sex kittens that weekend) …. and a year later, we are invited to their wedding!   Nice Story thus far, eh!

Hillboro Beach, FL is north of Ft Lauderdale, at the beginning of the inlet to the inter coastal at the top of Pompano Beach.

Gazzebo leading out to the beach

Gazzebo leading out to the beach

Daisy and John on the Ocean side of the Inlet

Daisy and John on the Ocean side of the Inlet

Daisy doing her daisy thing with a little one

Daisy doing her daisy thing with a little one

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Two of 4 1920's cottages

Two of 4 1920’s cottages

It is host to a distinctive black and white lighthouse at the inlet entrance and four 1920’s cottages – fully equipped and beautifully outfitted and maintained by a resort right next to the property — and all of it available to retired military – whom our dear Matt is (Mr. Top Gun with 200 plus missions under his belt).  So he requisitioned two cottages for his wedding to Pamela and graciously gave John, Daisy and me a room to enjoy on this little spot of heaven.

We were joined in the house by Matt’s brother Mark & his wonderful wife Amy who came from Washington State …

Mark and Amy Lawskowski

Mark and Amy Lawskowski

and Matt’s Fraternity brother Greg and his wife Pat – who are now located in Key West – seen here working on the table centerpieces.

The house was also the gathering place for the families and all in all had a very cool vibe.

flowering center of the centerpieces

flowering center of the centerpieces

Fraternity Bro Greg and his wife PAT beribbon the centerpieces

Fraternity Bro Greg and his wife PAT beribbon the centerpieces

How does she get her mouth around a large coconut???

How does she get her mouth around a large coconut???

The night before the wedding, after a supper with the family, Matt, Pam, Mark, Amy and Greg and Pat were entertained by a spirited and amusing conversation that sprang up between John Matson and Matt’s Kids:

Christine 28

Andrew 26 ?

and Christine’s wonderful  boyfriend Jose.

Matrk & Amy and Pam and Matt Keeping an amused distance from the "discussion" with the kids

Matrk & Amy and Pam and Matt Keeping an amused distance from the “discussion” with the kids

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So ... do you think they are brothers?

So … do you think they are brothers?

Meeting of the Minds (and they were all good ones)

Meeting of the Minds (and they were all good ones)

Matt's Daughter: Christine with boyfriend Jose

Matt’s Daughter: Christine with boyfriend Jose

Let me first say:, the “kids” were really cool people.  Each of them is super educated (multiple degrees), super nice and super interested in fixing the world’s incongruities and injustices.

Each of them is socially conscious, and passionate about rights and wrongs.

And at least two of them strenuously believes that their future is seriously compromised without a concerted recovery action (think: Student Loan relief) …..

And they are pissed off that the rich kids get all the good jobs. (so what’s new?)

And they seriously believe they face a more difficult world than any previous generation (despite having  multiple degrees and world travels far exceeding any generation prior) …  AND from their POV – we — that’s you and me, darling — have had a privileged life! PRIVILEGED!  Really?  What part of my life was privileged?  Working as a meat wrapper in HS?  Or was it the Nabisco factory job?  Or the College Cafeteria?  Or – oh, was it the cold-calling radio sales job after grad school?

Matt's Son: Andrew - Aerospace Engineer (who desires to be a HS Math Teacher)

Matt’s Son: Andrew – Aerospace Engineer (who desires to be a HS Math Teacher)

Mr. Patience

Mr. Patience

John engaged them into a conversation about how they see the world — very contentious and stimulating. It got heated at times … and the wine and cognac bottles were quickly emptied.  I don’t think there was much resolved  – each generation sees the world as they have been conditioned to see it via their upbringing.  And each has their own challenges and burdens.

I do recall having many of the same upsets when I was their age — about how the truly privileged kids got an easy pass while we (I) had to work multiple jobs in many different venues to keep body and soul together – But I kept at it and it worked out and all those different jobs actually did add up, eventually, giving me the range of skills necessary for the dream job I didn’t know was coming … and it was the best surprise ever.

Every generations tends to think their path is more difficult than the previous generation’s — but it is not so. Everything has a balance and to those who much is given, much is expected.  No doubt: the children of the babyboomers got a lot – maybe more than was good for them. But – that was the shuffle of their cards and your best bet in life is to play the hand you’re dealt … with as much positive energy as you can muster. Because, really, what’s the use of complaining?  Get up, Get Out and Do Something ….and watch your path unfold.

WEDDING DAY.

DEELicious Swim in the inlet bay .....

DEELicious Swim in the inlet bay …..

Glorious, beautiful morning.  Beach Walk.  Swim in the Inlet — ohhhh what invigorating water.

Yep - this is how it felt!

Yep – this is how it felt!

Daisy Scores a Coconut on the morning beach walk.

Daisy Scores a Coconut on the morning beach walk.

South View from the Cottages - That's Popano Beach on the other side of the inlet

South View from the Cottages – That’s Popano Beach on the other side of the inlet

While in the water, I met 4 amazing 30 year old women who were smart, savvy, spirited and sassy – who did not feel what Matt’s kids were feeling. They were busy making plans and seizing opportunities – of which they saw many.  Good. My faith in a generation is restored.

After Lunch we built the Wedding Bower with two of Pam’s friends, (Diane and Mabway – I think that’s her name)

Building the Wedding Bower

Building the Wedding Bower

Yes - Yes - the flowers will work just perfect there!

Yes – Yes – the flowers will work just perfect there!

OK  - We are getting there!

OK – We are getting there!

Diane was a fun helper

Diane was a fun helper

Then set up the chairs and tables until we finally had to get dressed and join the gathering crowd.

John led the setting of the chairs on a magnificent day!

John led the setting of the chairs on a magnificent day!

Pam - the Bride to Be - checks in with her happy crew.

Pam – the Bride to Be – checks in with her happy crew.

Matt and his Mom: Henryka

Matt and his Mom: Henryka

Then Matt came out in his wedding outfit – wow!  What a cool dude.

Pam has a previous history in Hawaii – so she had Lei’s sent over for her groom and family.  It was such a fitting touch on a piece of Florida land that uncannily looks like Hawaii.

Matt’s Mom Henryka – an operatic Diva in her day – is 93 amazing years with the same panache I saw in her when I was 18.

Then the wedding began.  Matt and Larry stood by the bower –

Matt and Larry await Pam's entrance

Matt and Larry await Pam’s entrance

and Pam made her entrance . . . .

The Bride Arrives

The Bride Arrives

Oh My!  We all gasped.  She looked Marvelous in a sinuous white dress with a crown of flowers around her head – from Hawaii, too.

Gorgeous Back of the Dress

Gorgeous Back of the Dress

A beautiful, beautiful  bride

A beautiful, beautiful bride

The ceremony was an interesting mix of Star Trek Satire, Storytelling and unabashed adoration.

With Matt as master of ceremonies, he orchestrated Larry as the minister “under the powers invested in me by the “Chronosynclastic Infundibulum” 

The what of the what????

(crow-n0-sin-class-tick In-fun-dib-u-lum)

This is a Kurt Vonnegut creation, first defined in the novel SIRENS OF TITAN as “those places … where all the different kinds of truths fit together.” The story line features characters from different planets and each planet has its own set of truths …. that are not necessarily true on the other planets … but the space in between the planets is the place where all those truths can co-exist peacefully.

Vonnegut notes that any detailed description of this phenomenon would baffle the layman, but any comprehensible explanation would insult an expert. Consequently, he “quotes” an article from a (fictional) children’s encyclopedia. According to this article, since the Universe is so large, there are many possible ways to observe it, all of which are equally valid, because people from across the Universe can’t communicate with each other (and therefore can’t get into an argument). The chronosynclastic infundibula are places where these “ways to be right” coexist.”

Now isn’t that just like MATT’S way of thinking?  You betcha!

During the Ceremony, and in concert with each other, Matt and Pam told the story of their meeting … at a weekend Howl At The Moon Everglades party.  Matt had shown up late and was riding his bike to catch up with the group of bicyclists …. but he soon tired of the race so he threw his bike down by a brook and sprawled out on the grass.  After a while, Pamela, who had tired of riding in the bicycle pack, ditched the group and turned back toward camp when she came upon Matt’s sprawled out body by the brook.  “Are you OK?” she asked the prone figure.  I forget if Matt told us his response but I’d hazard a guess that somewhere in his being he said ….”I am now!”

Well …. that was the beginning of Matt’s being very OK!

Matt and Pamela made several commitments in their service, but the one I liked best was the commitment to “RELAXED ADVENTURES”GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERA

Later on I found out they both own and ride motorcycles …. which became the basis of the Honeymoon travels up through FL to NC and back.

It is quite wonderful to see these two fully independent individuals find a niche between them that lead to a Most Happy Occasion.

Oh yes, and there is more!

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAMatt's Family - Andrew, Christine, Jose, Amy, Mark

Matt’s Family – Andrew, Christine, Jose, Amy, Mark
Daisy and John's Pirate Pants (they were perfect for this wedding!)

Daisy and John’s Pirate Pants (they were perfect for this wedding!)

After the Ceremony, drinking resumed (it was a very happy partying crowd) and dinner was served under the tent and soon dancing began – (“Everyone was moving, Everyone was groovin’ Baby) It was all good.

Pam’s family was wonderful too – her Mom, her Aunt, her Sisters and nephews and nieces — flying kites on the property. Pam's Mom and Aunt

Pam’s Mom and Aunt

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAThe kids and kites had a ball!

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The joys kept bubbling up.

The Post-Wedding March Ukelele Player

The Post-Wedding March ukulele Player

Laura and Matt - both very happy for each other.

Laura and Matt – both very happy for each other.

Happy Happy

Happy Happy

Bower still standing, framing Pompano Beach

Bower still standing, framing Pompano Beach

Matt and Pam have many lovely friends

Matt and Pam have many lovely friends

Blue Moon ... Now I'm no longer alone ... without a song in my heart!"

Blue Moon … Now I’m no longer alone … without a song in my heart!”

The First Dance was serenaded by Jose and Christine, along with several other songs.  (Jose, I’d like to note here, is an aspiring musician – however we were so impressed with his thinking skills – a great mind he has).

First Dance Viewers

First Dance Viewers

Christine and Jose Singing and Playing

Christine and Jose Singing and Playing

Mom got her dance, too!

Mom got her dance, too!

Everyone was happy for the happy couple

Everyone was happy for the happy couple

Cup Cake Tower for Wedding Cake

Cup Cake Tower for Wedding Cake

Yum

Yum

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Mawbry had to jet out on the beach to sober up.

Mawbry had to jet out on the beach to sober up.

Sunsetting on the day

Sunsetting on the day

This is the couple who hosted the everglades party that began the romance.

This is the couple who hosted the everglades party that began the romance.

John cools out on the beach for a few

John cools out on the beach for a few

And I soon join him

And I soon join him

Middle of the night I awoke and took this shot of the full moon by the lighthouse!

Middle of the night I awoke and took this shot of the full moon by the lighthouse!

And this shot of the sunrise from our room ....

And this shot of the sunrise from our room ….

And nearly the same shot during Sunday Morning from the porch of the cottage.

And nearly the same shot during Sunday Morning from the porch of the cottage.

We won't soon forget this lighthouse or fantastic weekend, celebrating two kids in love.

We won’t soon forget this lighthouse or fantastic weekend, celebrating two kids in love.

-CONGRATULATIONS,PAMELA AND MATT:  May all your days be loving, relaxing and exciting.

xoxo – Laura & John and Daisy!

"Yes ... its in the kiss"

“Yes … its in the kiss”

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One response to this post.

  1. Posted by Richard Hahn on June 6, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    It was a beautiful capturing of A Joyous occasion. , A pleasure to share.

    Reply

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